Choosing the wording for your ceremony

Wedding wording with a personal touch


This is a simple guide how to make your wedding ceremony wording sound better and more thoughtful.


If you could write the wording of your own ceremony it would add personal touch to it, have bigger impact on guests and create even better memories, wouldn’t it?

As much as usual wedding vows are beautiful and have their own place in the tradition it is great to be able express your personality by having some influence on what you, your spouse-to-be and the guests hear on the one of most important day of your lives.

With celebrant-led wedding you have that chance. You’ll not write the wording entirely by yourself but your input will be significant and if you have specific request you can freely express them to the celebrant.

For some couples it is ideal situation as they know what they want to be said during the ceremony but others may struggle with putting their thoughts in writing. If you belong to the second group, here comes a handy guide that will make the whole process a lot easier. Before you sit down to fill in questionnaire sent by celebrant, complete these three steps.


  1. Think & Plan

Choose a quiet afternoon or a day when you and your fiancé can think what you would like to include in the ceremony. Do you have a message to pass on to your guests? A lesson you’ve learnt together? A beautiful memory that describes what you mean to each other?

At this stage you already know why you’re getting married and what your relationship symbolise, so feel free to share it with others.

Some of those things you’ll be able to share in the questionnaire, e.g. what do you love about each other. The additional things are ones you may want to add in comments box or discuss personally with the celebrant.


  1. Research

Every good writer will tell you that before they wrote any article, novel or a story, they had spent a lot of time on research. There is no shame in using examples from other people’s weddings, if they express what you want to say. Check how others have done it, how is it done in different cultures and countries and draw inspiration from it while keeping personal character.


  1. First draft

When you will receive the first draft read it a few times. Give yourself a day or two of break and then read it again with a fresh mind. You’ll be able to spot what’s missing or what’s told too many times or not in a right way. When it comes to discussing it with the celebrant for the second time you’ll together prepare perfect final version.


After completing these simple steps it will be easier to discuss with Gwen what you want to create in your ceremony. You’ll not come with a blank paper but with ready with ideas. But remember to keep your mind open to her suggestions based on years of experience.